Each type as a romantic partner
Each Enneagram type can make you swoon, and each can make you want to shout into the void. Here we dig into the reasons that you may really enjoy (or be frustrated by) the nine Enneagram types as partners!
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Let’s get cooking.
Ones
Yes, Ones may act like a coach as much as a partner. Yes, that will be slightly annoying at times. And yes: they are also remarkably sweet and wise, so you’ll probably forgive them for their occasional advice.
Why you will love a One as a partner
- Free life coaching that’s actually good
- Will remember recycling day when you forget
- Your mom will think they're a saint
- Will keep you on time, alive, and out of jail
Why you will facepalm
- May correct your grammar mid-argument
- Eating food in bed may lead to homicide
- Silent disapproval is louder than yelling, and if you say "close enough," you’ll be wrong
Twos
Twos aren’t always home-run-hitters at directly expressing their wants and needs, but they are Hall-of-Famers at being kind, giving, and ridiculously good advisors.
Why you will love a Two as a partner
- Unlimited free hugs and shoulder rubs
- Has intel on every social situation
- They are ON TOP of things: plans, birthdays, surprises
- Will brag about you to strangers
Why you will facepalm
- "I'm fine" is, in fact, a test
- You may have to occasionally watch their guilty pleasure TV show with them
- Direct eye contact is a threat
Threes
Threes may get so immersed in their projects that they kinda sorta occasionally overlook their partners. But you’ll probably be dang flattered to find out they were doing it all for your shared (massive) success.
Why you will love a Three as a partner
- A personal trainer, life coach, and stylist rolled into one
- Will impress your parents in under five minutes
- Handles all the small-talk so you don’t have to
- Make everyday life feel like a highlight reel
Why you will facepalm
- Their love language is calendar invites and a sense of urgency
- Board games may feel like Olympic finals
- May schedule “spontaneous fun” three weeks in advance
Fours
“Low maintenance” is a phrase that’s not often used with Fours. Excitement, deep inspiring thinking, and emotional attunement are, however. And for those, many partners are extremely grateful.
Why you will love a Four as a partner
- Make falling in love feel cinematic
- Will support your weirdness like it’s a superpower
- You will literally never feel bored ever again
- Holds space for your deepest secrets without judgment
Why you will facepalm
- Their mood swings have mood swings
- They’ll sigh like tortured poets over the Wi-Fi being slow
- Will need to be both hard to understand and understood by you
Fives
Nope, they sure as heck don’t want to be mushy and emotional, and prefer to lead with their craniums. But if you like deep philosophical thinkers with a whimsical humor, you’re in for a treat.
Why you will love a Five as a partner
- You’ll never run out of deep conversation topics
- You will have information you didn’t even know you needed
- They'll never judge your weird interests or quirks
- Will upend your entire world view with a single question
Why you will facepalm
- Will spend 45 minutes explaining a minor plot hole in a movie
- May need more alone time than your cat
- Their flirting style is sending you a 12-page article
Sixes
Yeah, they will overthink things and worry more than occasionally. But they’ll also be your Ride or Die, help you figure out any problem imaginable, and find humor almost everywhere.
Why you will love a Six as a partner
- They’ll back you up in public and troubleshoot in private
- Has a pulse on what’s going on in the community
- Observes all the social dynamics so you don’t have to
- Can bulletproof your plans and theories
Why you will facepalm
- They’ll argue with Google Maps if it seems “off”
- Will make you laugh when you’re trying to be serious
- Have favorite foods and shows that can’t be substituted out
Sevens
“Lalalala” -7s when you’re trying to have a serious talk with them. Outside of that, they are some of the most feel-good vibey partners imaginable, keeping things exciting, positive, and intellectual.
Why you will love a Seven as a partner
- They’ll cheer you up faster than caffeine
- Help you see possibilities where you saw problems
- Your life may become one grand adventure
- Guaranteed to cure you with their contagious laugh
Why you will facepalm
- Might RSVP “yes” to four events on the same night
- Their “quick plan” involves three countries and no sleep
- Idea of financial budgeting is “we’ll figure it out”
Eights
Want consistent tender love and affection? You may have to look elsewhere. What 8s will bring, though, is supreme confidence, nonconformity, and loyalty to their work and responsibilities.
Why you will love an Eight as a partner
- You’ll never wonder where you stand with them
- Obscene confidence that rubs off on you
- Will, in fact, get you to smile via outlandish comments
- Responsible, tough, and forward-moving
Why you will facepalm
- Resting face gives “intimidating mob boss” vibes
- All of their“suggestions” sound suspiciously like commands
- Their unruliness may land you both in jail
Nines
“I just feel so good around them.” -every partner of a 9, everywhere. You may have to drag them into reality since they can be delusionally positive, but once grounded, they’re wonderfully soothing and attuned.
Why you will love a Nine as a partner
- Radiates calm when the world feels chaotic
- The least judgmental person you’ll ever meet
- Will surprise you with creative hobbies and jokes
- Your home will be the coziest place on earth
Why you will facepalm
- Will take 36 hours to choose a Netflix show
- Conflict style is “avoid until the heat death of the universe”
- May zone out when you’re mid-story
Good luck out there!